What No One Tells You

Sunday, January 17, 2016

I think the most disappointing part of pregnancy for me has been the shift in wardrobe options. Because as shitty as the first trimester is, and the nausea, and the mood swings, and the lack of energy, and all that crap, you at least know that it's coming. You've been warned. Probably by multiple TV shows and movies you've seen, as well as the millions of people that will tell you when they, or you, become pregnant. And yeah, you're aware of the fact that you're going to get bigger, you are growing a person after all, but no one prepares you for how fucking boring maternity clothes are. Or how insanely awkward you're going to feel in everything you own until you're big enough for maternity clothing. This is for sure the last time I'll be wearing this skirt for awhile, as told by the slight gapping between the second and third buttons. It's sad to say goodbye to all your clothes that were anywhere near form fitting and welcome in a brigade of baggy sweaters, but alas this is how it is. So I'm savoring the last few precious wears I have with each of my items of perfectly personalitied clothing. This outfit is one such example. 









::PHOTOS BY M::
HOT TODDY JACKET, SKIRT, BRACELET, & HAT :: TARGET TIGHTS :: TOP C/O PEPALOVES :: GIFTED LEGWARMERS :: MARSHALLS WEDGES :: KAT VON D EVERLASTING LIQUID LIPSTICK IN LOLITA II

I've actually spent a lot of time stressing lately about my lack of weight gain, until I saw my OB and she said she'd be happy if I gained a total of 20 pounds throughout the pregnancy. This was such a huge relief to me because once you're pregnant your life becomes everyone's business, and I was sick of being flooded with, "you need to eat more"s, and "why aren't you showing yet"s. It's really offensive when someone thinks you're purposely not feeding yourself and your baby for the sake of staying thin. Like, offensive on a level I never thought I could be offended. It hits you right in all those primal motherly instincts that kick in when you're pregnant (or sometimes not until you have a kid, we're all different), and you're just stunned for a second. Woah. It's intense. But needless to say, I feel much better now, and plan to continue eating appropriate amounts when I'm hungry, and stopping when I get full. 

I think it's really weird that pregnancy has become this magical excuse to eat whatever you want, whenever you want, and to eat however much of it that pleases you. I can't tell you how many people have said to me, "Oh! You can eat whatever you want now! I loved that about being pregnant!" If you think about it, you should be doing your best to give that little bb the best start to life and a proper diet that you can. And really, your suggested calorie intake doesn't increase that much during the pregnancy. And before anyone starts thinking I'm being crazy or sizeist, or what have you, I will openly admit that during my first trimester fast food was one of the few things that didn't make me want to vomit. I ate all the Jack In The Box curly fries. I guess what I'm really saying, is I don't understand being pregnant and using that as a reason to eat past when you get full, and/or to start eating things your normally wouldn't have all the time. Pregnant weight gain is absolutely 100% different for everyone. Some people gain less than 20 pounds, and some people gain over 100. That's totally fine. Your body is doing some crazy shit. I just think being pregnant shouldn't automatically mean shoveling whatever sounds worst into your body for nine months. But, hey, who am I to say? I ate half a pint of gelato last night with zero regrets. 

11 comments:

  1. You're going to get a TON of unwanted advice from this point forward on EVERYTHING. Get ready! haha Everyone is suddenly the pregnancy/parenting pro when you become pregnant. I have yet to be pregnant, but I've seen/heard it happen to friends. It's awful. Just focus on your baby and your pregnancy. It's no one else's business!!!

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    1. UGH. The unwanted everything is just so the truth. It is awful. I am at such a loss as to why people think it's suddenly ok to get all up in your business at such a crazy time in someone's life! It makes no sense! There will definitely be lots of complaining in my next Trimester Talk video.

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  2. I agree with the previous commenter, my friend is very petite and when she got pregnant, she heard all those same kinds of things. And the unwanted advice will continue once your baby is born! You and your doctor will figure out what's best for you, so just shut out all that background chatter!

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    1. I definitely need to work on tuning people out. I am such a sensitive person that I get all in a huff over the littlest comments. But you are completely right, whatever my doctor says is good is what I am going with!
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  3. What I loved the most was being asked if I was having twins toward the end of my pregnancy. Nope, just one baby and apparently lots of water. People lose sensitivity at the worst times.

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    1. Oh god! People are just so bad!!!

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  4. Sorry to hear about those insensitive comments! If you are naturally a petite woman you probably won't gain that much weight. Like you said it's different for each person. I think it totally makes sense for a person to eat their best during their pregnancy. I think that women that live in this culture that;s obsessed with size and being attractive means (to most) being thin. So when a woman gets pregnant they know it is "appropriate" to gain a lot of weight so they may use it as an excuse to binge. I don't know if I am on the right track but it makes sense to me.
    Also if you want some cute clothes for when you are bigger maybe try plus size section? The smallest size might work for you and they have lots of cute stuff at Torrid. Maybe wrap dresses and empire waist dresses in general since they are tight at top and flowy from underbust down. I guess you are used to wearing tighter things but loose fitting doesn't have to be boring.

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    1. Yes! You totally understand what I am saying! It's like it's so ingrained that you become bigger when you're pregnant that women seem to just say "fuck it."
      And torrid is a great idea! I will definitely check them out once I am bigger. Although at this rate I'm thinking I can just size up and be alright. I'm growing so slowly. Which is totally ok. I already feel so stretched!

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  5. I am so not looking forward to maternity clothes when I eventually get pregnant. I will be so sad to not wear all my normal clothes. I will also be afraid of not being able to fit in them afterwards either. I agree that pregnancy should not be an excuse to gorge yourself all the time, though I can't say I won't want to when I am pregnant. It always happens when I'm on my period...lol.

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    1. The maternity clothes are a nightmare, let me tell you. I think the best bet it just going a size or two up from what you'd normally wear. Although I did manage to find some totally cute maternity jeans at H&M and am now recommending them to everyone for large brunches and the like, haha.
      I am definitely just grumpy most of the time about not being able to wear my old clothes, and am totally terrified about not fitting them again when all is said and done.
      And I definitely let the cravings take me where they will. I just always stop when I'm full and try to balance things out. Tater tots with ranch for lunch? Maybe a fruit salad for dinner. Luckily I crave fruit a lot, so that's made it easy.

      ♡ Mariah Alysz

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