Underneath My Everyday

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

I've been stewing for a long time over whether or not to start incorporating intimates/lingerie posts on my blog. And I don't mean the overtly sexual here-I-am-prowling-over-a-bed-in-leather-coming-for-you kind of lingerie photos. I mean soft, regular photos of what I actually wear, and love. There is so much body shaming going on these days that women are often torn apart for having a body that doesn't look exactly like a VS model's, even though they are perfectly healthy and beautiful, and that's just nonsense. We should do our best to embrace our bodies, treat them well, and love them for what they are. Here is my body as it is. Even after creating this entire post and putting it into my queue I actively debated whether or not to let it go through. People can be so judgmental and I am the kind of person who cares greatly about what others think about me. Will I lose a multitude of followers? Will people be turned off? Will it mesh into my blog? Will it sink this ship before it really had a chance to float? In the end, even if my entire following turns into creepy middle-aged men, if I can positively influence even one person, then I think it's worth it.

It has always struck me as odd that it is extremely taboo for someone to see you in your underwear while seeing someone in a bikini isn't considered strange at all, even though they often show off more (and do so in a more sexualized manner) than casual undergarments. In the end, I have decided it is worth it to take this plunge. Regardless of what people think. I want to share my attempts to be comfortable within my own skin. I want to share positive, non-sexualized images of a woman in her intimidates, so that perhaps others can join me in my journey in learning to love every part of myself.  Because while this post is on one hand about a new bralet I own that is super comfy, it is also about a journey into self love, acceptance, and a hopeful step towards an end of things like the over sexualization of all women and slut-shaming. So here I am. In my typical go-to bralet. No photoshopping. Just some lighting tweaks and a preset via Lightroom. Me as I am. I hope I have in my ramblings, adequately summed up what I am trying to do here.



cosabella bralet :: pink panties :: target cardigan :: fuego headband

On a lighter note, I have been wearing bralets for years now, and up till recently only owned ones I got from Pink, which are lovely, but completely worn out. I think they actually have them again now after discontinuing them for awhile, but I decided I finally needed some new ones to replace my most worn out ones (mainly a white one that was definitely no longer white) and found the three-pack I have linked above from Cosabella. I am so pleased by the quality and softness of the bralets that I will definitely be a return shopper. Plus, their bralets come in every color you could ever want, seriously, check it out.

I find bralets to be perfect for everything, and I rarely ever wear a bra with padding and underwire, even though I have an abundance from when I worked at VS. Bralets are just so much more comfortable for me, and even though when I was younger I thought it was all about the cleavage (despite the comfort that entailed, or rather lack there of), I find myself much happier and feeling myself when I don't have my breasts pushed up in any way. A soft cover is much better, and also helps to keep me cozy and warm (which is a huge bonus for me since I have arthritis in my chest, but that's another story entirely). Plus, and this may just be me, I find them much more feminine, and romantic than a typical bra. 

When I finally stopped wearing normal bras for the most part, I thought that perhaps Michael might have some negative opinions on the topic, seeing as men I had dated in the past made it abundantly clear to me that the size and volume of my breasts/cleavage was of the utmost importance to them, but instead Michael was totally down. He wouldn't have changed my decision no matter what he said, but it was a fantastic reminder of what an amazing man he is, and of what amazing men should be. No one should be able to tell you how they prefer your body; that is complete nonsense. Needless to say, I've been there...multiple times. Anyways, that was a bit of a tangent, but I think the point is important and cohesive with the rest of the post. It's about what you find most comfortable and like most on your body. Period. 

I truly hope this addition to my blog doesn't make anyone uncomfortable, and if it does, or you have any thoughts whatsoever, please let me know. 

10 comments:

  1. These are such lovely photos, and I love this whole post! While I personally wouldn't post lingerie pictures (and, I don't wear bikinis, either, so y'know) because I'm not comfortable with people seeing that much of my body for my own personal modesty "code" (or whatever you want to call it!), I think these are so tasteful and pretty, and I have nothing against a girl wearing what she wants to wear for her blog! You are just gorgeous, and I think you said it all perfectly; it IS scary to post things like this even if you're a healthy, fit woman, because people will totally judge. Take it from me, though, as a girl who grew up as a pastor's granddaughter and married a pastor's kid, I don't think these are in any way vulgar or showy or inappropriate.

    I looove bralettes and unlined bras, too. I quit wearing pushup bras a long time ago, because I didn't like the unrealistic proportions they portrayed, in my quest to be a positive representation of a body that is not ideal in breast-to-hip ratio. (Well, I might have one I wear for my husband, but that's another story altogether. ;) ) I'm glad M doesn't care! My husband doesn't, either.
    Anyway! Well done! Also, I LOVE that we can see your gorgeous tattoo better in these! I have some serious tattoo envy, which has never happened before -- before I saw yours, I never entertained the idea of getting a tattoo seriously, but you're making me want one!
    xo
    Kristina
    www.eccentricowl.com

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    1. I am so happy you don't find them inappropriate or anything of the like! It was definitely one of my worries when posting that no matter what my intentions the whole post may be misconstrued. So it's definitely reassuring that you, as such a beautiful and inspirational woman (and one of my longest readers I think) are just so supportive! It's very appreciated!

      I complete agree with unrealistic proportions! I always felt that way with any sort of push-up. I used to think that that's what I needed to wear because that's what everyone else was wearing (oh high school) but one day I looked in the mirror and just thought I looked so fake and ridiculous! I'm glad we both have men who are loving and smart enough to know that it's not all about the cleave. Not that push ups aren't nice for special occasions, but every day? Definitely no thanks. So happy to know someone else who likes bralets and unlined bras! Not many people I know in real life like them, so I always felt kind of weird, especially when I worked at Victoria's Secret!

      And lastly, I do love my tattoo! It's funny, I often forget it's there because until it's summer, it's pretty much hidden from the world. I do always encourage getting tattoos, I just think if they're done right they're so pretty. Like having a permanent art installation on your body. Although anything permanent is also petrifying (at least to me), however since my flower piece is for my mom (her handwriting is under it) I don't think I'll ever regret it.

      Thanks so much for all the love and support! <3 All my as well!
      <3 Mariah Alysz

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  2. Firstly, these images are stunning!! Second, I LOVE this post! I'm so glad you decided to post it despite your uncertainty. I remember the first time I posted photos of myself in lingerie on my blog I was pretty nervous, but it also made me feel so good. Growing up I always felt so self-conscious about my body and finally when I let that go and really embraced my body and all the wonderful things it does I felt this relief. Now I have no hesitation posting pictures that show more of my body, and to be honest, those are my favourite images to take and share.
    Anyways, I think this is wonderful and I can't wait to see more xo

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words and support! I definitely felt all my anxieties melt away once I knew this had finally posted (it felt like it was in my queue forever) and now I feel rather freed by it! It's interesting that sharing something so personal with so many people can help to overcome things you may be self conscious about (for me it's always been my lower stomach). I think, at least for me, there's so much fear involved of judgement or slut-shaming, or just general disapproval, that being met instead with openness, support, and positivity is a true game changer.
      Now I can't wait to take more photos and begin to share them!
      (Also I adore your intimates posts, they are *so* dreamy!)
      <3 Mariah Alysz

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  3. I am really loving the ideas contained within this post and I am all for them. Women shouldn't have to feel ashamed of their bodies and should be welcomed and encouraged to love them as they are. The concept of beauty as a restricted club of people with particular measurements needs to stamped out!

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    1. Exactly! You hit the nail right on the head! Beauty comes is all colors, shapes, sizes, whatever, and needs to be represented with love and pride! Thank you so much for your support!
      <3 Mariah Alysz

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  4. LOVED this! You're so right - no one gets to have an opinion on what you do with your body besides you. Of COURSE Michael supports your bra-let preference - he genuinely loves you for more than your body. If he's anything like my man, he doesn't care what's ON your boobs,he just wants to take it off anyway!! ;)

    SaraLIly
    In a Nutshell...

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    1. I'm so glad you liked the post! Thanks for your support! And I'd have to say you are pretty correct about clothes being on vs off, haha.
      <3 Mariah Alysz

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  5. I love the pictures and I'm glad you decided to ahead and post them! I'm a big lingerie fan, too, especially bralettes, I can never have enough.

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